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They call them "hot-heads," "firecrackers," "trigger-happy." They go from 0 to 60 in less than .05 seconds. If you make these kind of people angry...most know its a wrap! The bad news...they more than likely will always cause a scene if someone tries to push their buttons. The good news....no one hardly ever bothers to push their buttons because they don't want to cause a scene.

But what about the quiet ones...the calm ones..the cool ones...the ones that remain a mystery? The ones that the Average Joe can rarely ever figure out or understand. People will always want to test their patience. Why?...because they are calm. People wanna know what makes them tick, what rubs them the wrong way. Why...human nature I guess??? Who knows. There is always a struggle for control. And you can't control what you don't know or understand.

If you think I'm lying...just take a few days to examine your friends. Which one is the hot-head and which one is the cool one? Watch to see how people respond to each...and see if what I'm saying doesn't hold true. People will more than likely try to come at the person who is known to be the calm and cool one when there is a misunderstanding or disagreement. They will think twice before they even begin to bother the "hothead." Why?? I have no earthly idea? Well I do, but I don't wanna go there in this post.

Everybody wants to be the man. But everybody is not. These people who are not "the man" but want to be so badly are who I like the call....THE BUTTON PUSHERS!! The sole purpose for their existence is to push your buttons. They make it their business to piss you off. Your reactions to their button pushing is dependent upon how important they feel about themselves. If you don't react to them, it enrages them and they try to find more buttons to push and most of the time will not stop until they get some sort of response. When you do react, it gives them a sense of relief and a sense of satisfaction. Sad but true.

You ever heard the saying, "emotions will have you broke." It's so very true.

Sometimes you gotta suck it up and bite the bullet. If you don't...you will be the one with a thousand great songs that on one ever hears because you don't know how to control your temper. It takes many sacrifices to make it in this business. I MEAN A LOT OF THEM! You gotta know when the light is green and when it's red. Blowing up at every little thing is not a good look or a smart move.

And here's the worst part of it. Sometimes to test you, people will purposely push your buttons to see how you will react. They wanna know how you are going to respond when you are pissed off. Will you be able to keep your head? Can you express yourself and your difference of opinions without crossing the line? You've got to keep your cool. No matter how angry you get... you might not wanna blow a fuse when you aren't the one holding all the cards. A move like that could have you out in the cold and broke. And know that, the more calm you are, the more they will try to test your patience. Your task is to hold it together. Say what you have to say, but just be careful how you say it because the main ones trying to test you aren't the ones who hold the cards either. They are more than likely the ones who want to be "the man." You don't want to let a "button-pusher" cost you an opportunity. But you don't want to continue to be disrespected either. There is fine line. If you execute correctly, your point will be made loud and clear and you will still be able to continue on your path to success.

The object of this music game for some is to see how many they can take out or how many will take themselves out. Don't give major attention to minor people or things. Concentrate on what's important and keep your eye on the finish line. You don't wanna let anything insignificant and petty ruin your potential opportunity because at the end of the day..if you think about it...it's really not that serious. HANG IN THERE!! If you get mad and take yourself out of the game...then what is the purpose? All your talent goes to waste. They will be moving on with their lives making money while you are on the sideline still mad about something that doesn't affect them either way. Sad but true. It makes YOU look like the fool...a broke fool! :-/

Moral of the story....keep your focus. And don't let people push your buttons. Know when to agree, agree to disagree, and disagree without being disagreeable. It's important to know how to separate the personal from the business. And know when it's business it's never personal.

Stay Focused! Which one would you rather be.....

HIM


OR HIM

♪♫ ♪♫Live your life....Aye...aye...aye!♪♫ ♪♫

"Mind your own business!!!"

One of the most commonly used phrases of all time. We all use the term so loosely. Why is the phrase used so much? Is it because people really don't mind their own businesses?

Hmmmmmmm????? Let's play the question game real quick...a couple of hypotheticals to get you thinking...

If you saw your friend cheating…would you interject or not? What about if you saw your friend physically abusing his/her significant other, then would it be okay to interject or not?

Who would you confront...the friend or the person you saw your friend cheating with? Supposed the other person knew your friend was involved or married and simply did not care? Then what? Or what if that person did not know your friend was involved? Then who is to blame? Supposed your friend got angry with you because he/she claimed you weren't minding your own business?

And let's say, after all the dust settled, your friend still decided to cheat, only with someone else. Then what was it all for...were your actions in vain? Where you right or wrong to intervene? Was it really any of your business?

And what about a woman in the abusive relationship?

What if you tried to rescue her? What if she didn't want to be rescued? What if your friend claimed you weren't minding your own business and you got into a physical altercation with him and SHE got angry with you instead of him? Supposed she called the police...ON YOU? Suppose YOU went to jail? And let's just say your friend decided to cut you off over this. And what if after all that, she still went back to him. Again I ask, what was it all for...were your efforts to save a battered woman in vain?

Either way , was it really any of your business? This is where we leave Black and White and enter the Grey area. Where do we draw the line? What one man may see as fulfilling his civic duty the other may see as "Hating." So which one is it? Who is right and who is wrong...

It's simple...there is no right and no wrong. There are so many variables. It all depends on each particular person and situation.

And that is just it...You have to go off of what you feel and what you believe. I am the one who doesn't believe in interjecting unless asked...If I see something someone else is doing I try to keep my mouth closed and I let the universe work its magic. Even when asked...my response is usually, "No, your situation has nothing to do with me!" Unless I am directly involved and it does not pose a threat to my career or my sanity, there's no need. I could care less. But I can't tell those who do the opposite that they are wrong. Acceptance is ideal here. You have to accept the fact that the next man may care about something that you could care less about. I think they are stupid. But then again who am I to judge? They may think the same about me...which is even more stupid...but I digress! Anyway...

In the music business, it is absolutely imperative that you mind your own. It is dog eat dog...and every new opportunity has the potential to blossom or blow up in your face. This is a game of chess, you must make your moves carefully and only intervene when necessary or as it relates to yourself. No one really has the time to butt into someone else's business, they are too busy trying to fix their own. If you have the time...then there is obviously a lack of focus on your own career. You are in charge of your own destiny.

When have you ever heard any rumors of Beyonce going out of her way to hate on or diss another singer or anyone who steps to Jay-z for that matter....it's rare...think about it. She never even bothers to fight back. She disappears when need be and is always focused on her next move, not the people who insist on interjecting in her life. When people hate on her, she fights through her music, by succeeding. There is a reason why she is on top. And the ones who took the focus off of their own careers to try and intervene in her life are where?.....ummm right MY POINT EXACTLY!

That is why we have free will and the power to choose. You are a slave to your own choices. You choose your battles. Hopefully you choose wisely because, in the end, it could cost you! If it works to your advantage…then great! But if it doesn’t, you can only blame yourself. Can we just say...THE DOMINO EFFECT!? You'll come out with scars and bullet wounds that weren't meant for you but for the person whose business you were trying to mind. And you can only be mad at yourself. You will look up one day and find the person you were so worried about 10 steps ahead of you. And you will wonder when and how they got there. It's simple...they were minding their own business when you thought they were so worried about you. And you’ll find yourself wondering was it worth it…then you’ll be asking yourself…why didn’t I just mind my own business??!!

This is how we do it

(Singing) It's so cold in the D..........C!
It's freezing but I'm still doing it...Working hard...back at it! The holidays are gone and everybody is getting back into routine of things...including myself! I decided to post a little something so that you guys could see how we get down in the studio...in the flesh...RAW....mistakes...bad notes and all...



Until next time...Peace

PAID IN FULL

A new year, a new day, and a new everything so we all say! But it's easier said than done. We all make promises to ourselves that we rarely ever keep. And for what? I want to start the year off on a positive note so I wont rant and rave too much in this post. But the purpose today is to get us all to reflect. Well you don't have to, but I will.

Think about everything you went through this past year. What were you worrying about January 1, 2009? Did everything eventually work itself out? Was there even a need to worry? Whether we knew it or not, what was going to happen was going to happen...Doesn't matter if it was a failure or a triumph or if you worked extra hard or barely lifted a finger. Actually there was no need to worry at all. Everything was already set in stone and if it was a failure know that it was probably for the best to teach you. If it was a triumph know that there is now more required of you.

2010 should be the year we all have more FAITH! With all that has taken place in 2009, if there are those who still don't believe then I feel sorry for them. GOD is in charge and he is REAL! All we have to do is follow his lead. Everything is already drawn out. He already sent his son to pay the price. That is one promise that will surely be kept. All we have to do is ENDURE the trial! And yes, people will talk about you, yes they will condemn you, call you names, laugh at you, lie on you, hang you on the cross and leave you, betray you, persecute you, deceive you...but at the end of the day....IT'S ALL PAID IN FULL. We just need to endure to the end. ENDURE!!!

I tell myself everyday that if they did it to Jesus Christ they will definitely do it to me...who am I? So this year I will bear my cross and I will carry it down the path that he has set for me regardless of the trials that may come. I will not stop and MY FAITH WILL NOT FALTER! If he brought me to it...he will bring me through it!

Most of us know what we need to do and what we should do we just don't do it. We see the path and think its too hard or impossible. So we run around in circles like the children of Israel lost in the wilderness for 40 years when it doesn't have to be that way. If Jesus did it...so can you! So bear the cross because there is life in the end and your reward will be waiting.

All the resolutions in the world mean nothing if you don't believe. You'd be surprised at what just a little bit of faith can do! :-)

BELIEVE!